We all want to feel good. I don’t think many people wake up every morning hoping for a shit day but somewhere between the moment our eyes open and the second we realize we overslept by half an hour, our feelings fade from optimistic to positively negative. We spill our coffee, we get stuck in traffic, we miss deadlines at work, but why is this making you feel like garbage? Why is this bringing you down and affecting your mind, your outlook, and your relationship?
It’s inevitable that shit will happen, that’s life after all right? We wouldn’t know how good the roses smelt if we never got a whiff of the fertilizer they grew in once in a while. Little do you know that when you let all that excess garbage affect your mood, you’re not only putting your health in jeopardy but your relationship too. You probably spend a lot of time with your partner so don’t you think your stinky attitude is gonna start annoying him eventually? Relationships are supposed to be fun, happy, loving but how can you get there if you’re constantly being a downer?
When you’re always negative, you aren’t living your best life and you aren’t any fun to be around. People like surrounding themselves with happy people who don’t sweat the small stuff because it’s these people that make others feel good. Why do you think the most popular people are the ones you are always smiling and laughing? Surrounded by groups of people or just one or two friends, happy people shine and they attract good things because they aren’t fazed by stuff they have no control over. No wonder these people have better relationships; their significant other likes spending time with them ‘cause they aren’t always in a pissy mood.
Yeah, even the happiest people will get mad sometimes or be pissed if a car drives by and splashes dirty rain water over a new outfit. But you can either deal with it and laugh it off or hold onto that shitty feeling and let it affect your whole day, then bring it home and annoy your significant other with it. Yes, we like to tell our partners everything but you have to remember, they’re humans too and they may be getting sick of being your sounding board, day in and day out.
Also, if you’re always a downer you may notice that you just don’t feel good, physically. It’s a hard job being a negative person and it will start taking a toll on your health eventually. If you turn that frown upside down you might just notice you’ll have more energy and drive, which is usually an attractive quality in a partner. You want to feel your best so that when you look in the mirror you know that you are beautiful. You should always, always feel beautiful–you ARE, after all. But when you actually FEEL good about yourself, your partner will notice and want to jump those sexy bones of yours.
Your relationship depends on your mood and if it’s been hard lately, maybe it’s time for you to start working on yourself and figure out what’s making you so mad. If it’s your partner who’s the grump, mention it to them and let them know you only want positive vibes within the confines of your partnership. Its sounds a lot simpler than it is, I know, but that’s why you have to work on it–just like you have to work on other parts of your relationship. It’s equally important to work on your own being. You owe it to yourself and your partner, so stop pretending you’re a positive person and start truly living a positive life, your future self will thank you.
Start shining and never stop,
The Love Hawk
Shannon loves love. She has a passion for people and understanding the little things that make everyone unique and similar, all at the same time. She has degrees in Communication Studies, Psychology, and Broadcast Journalism but it’s the school of life that taught Shannon most of what she knows about love and relationships.