The fact that anger management is necessary can be the ultimate question. It was created to help people to live life happier and in healthier relationships and help people to control themselves in order to remain in employment situations longer or in school environments or any social situation in life.
Anger can come about for various reasons, but when it gets out of control and begins to harm other people or the individual is spewing anger, then it needs to be managed or it can literally destroy a person or persons lives.
Anger can be a learned state of mind as a child is raised. If the consequences are not tough enough to encourage the child to avoid anger outbursts, then the child becomes almost “good for nothing.”
At other times, anger can be a chemical imbalance. As narcotics can be given to find a quick remedy, they can also cause the chemical imbalance to worsen.
Anger is a basic emotion, meant to make a person consider what is causing this disruption of peace. To stop and be able to consider the root cause of the anger is extremely beneficial. Avoiding narcotics is the ultimate goal, but often parents or teachers cannot justify the long term training and consistency in consequences to help mold a child. In these instances, the other students are affected by the anger of the individual and it causes them disruption in the learning environment. In these cases narcotics are often the game changer for the sake of the “others” forced to participate in life with those who have out of control anger issues.
If the anger is brought on out of frustration to a person, it is one of the reasons that an angered individual may try to harm the ones causing the severe frustration. It has been said to “never deliberately prod your child to anger.” So no teasing until they are angry or cry. They will learn to hate you.
Anger can also be brought on by music, or video games or any negative movie. So protecting the person that begins to see the signs of anger is crucial. They need to avoid the music, the books or other material that causes the negative feelings. Sometimes this takes care of the problem. But other times it is the fact that the person has not been trained how to cope with anger. This takes time.
Sometimes anger can be a tool to scare people into being submissive to them. They have learned that they can control situations by using this anger and are actually lazy and selfish people. It is far quicker for them to have an aggressive and threatening outburst than it is to have to converse with people in an appropriate way. They seem to see themselves and their feelings as more important than others feelings and needs or wants.
Many times these anger fits make the person form bad habits of automatically responding with anger and they may begin to use false speech (lies) to manipulate others into viewing their point as correct.
It is truly a time consuming event to have to manage anger. High schools do take on the responsibility to help train and reduce the level of aggression in high school students. It has seemed to be a helpful tool.
The fact is, however that this behaviour training needs to start in the preschool years, especially if parents are absent from their children and at jobs all day. If children are going from one parent’s household and set of rules, to another parent’s set of rules in their household, then the consistency of the consequences is the most important learning tool. It is as simple as potty training a child. If the consistency isn’t there, then the child learns he can do as he wishes most of the time.
But learning how to behave and control emotions is the ground work that needs to be laid when a child is small, not when they are in High School.
It is also well known that hormones can play a huge roll in teenage years, so extreme guidance is suggested although each individual needs individualized direction. Some are not experiencing any help at home, or feel completely picked on, and yet others feel like they are totally in control and refuse to accept help with anger management.
We still need to look at the music, the books, the games, the movies and the peers they choose to be social with, as well as what type of family environment they live it, outside of school. We need to provide quality examples and positive materials to replace the negative media that they may be consuming. We need to educate them that if they continue feeding their minds the negative through music, games and movies etc., then they WILL experience trouble in the anger management area.
Being hopeful that anger management works, is all in the truth of the matter and being able to accept the truth.