The fact that anger management
is necessary can be the ultimate question.
It was created to help people to live life happier and in healthier
relationships and help people to control themselves in order to remain in
employment situations longer or in school environments or any social situation
Anger can come about for various reasons, but when it gets
out of control and begins to harm other people or the individual is spewing
anger, then it needs to be managed or it can literally destroy a person or
Anger can be a learned state of mind as a child is
raised. If the consequences are not
tough enough to encourage the child to avoid anger outbursts, then the child
becomes almost “good for nothing.”
At other times, anger can be a chemical imbalance. As narcotics can be given to find a quick
remedy, they can also cause the chemical imbalance to worsen.
Anger is a basic emotion, meant to make a person consider
what is causing this disruption of peace.
To stop and be able to consider the root cause of the anger is extremely
beneficial. Avoiding narcotics is the
ultimate goal, but often parents or teachers cannot justify the long term
training and consistency in consequences to help mold a child. In these instances, the other students are affected
by the anger of the individual and it causes them disruption in the learning
environment. In these cases narcotics
are often the game changer for the sake of the “others” forced to participate
in life with those who have out of control anger issues.
If the anger is brought on out of frustration to a person,
it is one of the reasons that an angered individual may try to harm the ones
causing the severe frustration. It has
been said to “never deliberately prod your child to anger.” So no teasing until they are angry or cry. They will learn to hate you.
Anger can also be brought on by music, or video games or any
negative movie. So protecting the person
that begins to see the signs of anger is crucial. They need to avoid the music, the books or
other material that causes the negative feelings. Sometimes this takes care of the
problem. But other times it is the fact
that the person has not been trained how
to cope with anger. This takes
Sometimes anger can be a tool to scare people into being
submissive to them. They have learned
that they can control situations by using this anger and are actually lazy and
selfish people. It is far quicker for
them to have an aggressive and threatening outburst than it is to have to
converse with people in an appropriate way.
They seem to see themselves and their feelings as more important than
others feelings and needs or wants.
Many times these anger fits make the person form bad habits
of automatically responding with anger and they may begin to use false speech
(lies) to manipulate others into viewing their point as correct.
It is truly a time consuming event to have to manage
anger. High schools do take on the
responsibility to help train and reduce the level of aggression in high school
students. It has seemed to be a helpful
The fact is, however that this behaviour training needs to
start in the preschool years, especially if parents are absent from their children
and at jobs all day. If children are
going from one parent’s household and set of rules, to another parent’s set of
rules in their household, then the consistency of the consequences is the most
important learning tool. It is as simple
as potty training a child. If the
consistency isn’t there, then the child learns he can do as he wishes most of
But learning how to behave and control emotions is the
ground work that needs to be laid when a child is small, not when they are in
It is also well known that hormones can play a huge roll in
teenage years, so extreme guidance is suggested although each individual needs
individualized direction. Some are not
experiencing any help at home, or feel completely picked on, and yet others
feel like they are totally in control and refuse to accept help with anger
We still need to look at the music, the books, the games,
the movies and the peers they choose to be social with, as well as what type of
family environment they live it, outside of school. We need to provide quality examples and
positive materials to replace the negative media that they may be consuming. We need to educate them that if they continue
feeding their minds the negative through music, games and movies etc., then
they WILL experience trouble in the anger management area.
Being hopeful that anger management works, is all in the
truth of the matter and being able to accept the truth.